Preface by Virginia Satir 11
Before You Begin This Book 13
How to Use This Book 17
Section I: The Relationship Road Map
Chapter 1. The Logic of Love and Other Emotions 23
Chapter 2. The Mechanics of Emotion: Emotional Allergy and Intimacy 33
Chapter 3. Self-Esteem: The Indispensable Foundation 47
Chapter 4. Confiding: The Daily Temperature Reading 58
Section II: Introducing The Arts
Chapter 5. Whats Your Stress Style? 67
Chapter 6. The Art of Talking 78
Chapter 7. The Art of Listening 89
Chapter 8. The Art of Mind Reading 97
Chapter 9. The Art of Anger 111
Chapter 10. The Art of Fighting Fair 120
Chapter 11. Letting Go of Grudges 140
Section III: Making The Invisible Visible
Chapter 12. The Three-Generation Family Map: Tracing Your Emotional Roots 157
Chapter 13. Arriving at Maturity 181
Chapter 15. Taking Charge: Arranging the Cast 206
Chapter 16. The Dance We Dance: Parts of a Couple 216
Section IV: Pleasuring
Chapter 17. Encouraging Pleasure 225
Chapter 18. Bonding 232
Chapter 19. Sexuality: Beyond Fantasy and Friction 242
